Even though I have been here a long time, and I don’t think I am vulnerable to losing my job, I still worry. There has been a great deal of “consolidation” over the last few years and many people have been let go or forced into early retirement. ![]() I’m an electrical engineer and work for a large company in the Midwest. I think my irritability is related to my time of life and to the stresses that seem to be mounting both at work and at home. Now it’s like living with an angry brick! My husband used to be the most positive, upbeat, funny person I know. I don’t even get the hugs I did in the past and, when he does touch me I feel grabbed rather than caressed. The thing that bothers me most is how unaffectionate he has become. I’m not kidding, that’s what he tells me. If his socks or underwear are missing, I must have put them somewhere to piss him off. I know that sounds bizarre, but that’s how he is thinking. ![]() If there’s a problem, it must be because of the way I’ve raised them. If the kids aren’t living up to his standards it is my fault when they’re good it is because he has been such a positive influence in their lives. Mark still works from 6:30 until 4:30 every day, but now his Dad accuses him of being unmotivated, lazy, and any other negative thing he can think to say. My husband has always shared my view that Mark is one of the hardest-working kids we know. ![]() It’s so surprising because our son has always been industrious and competent. He is particularly hard on our 19-year-old son Mark. Recently he has begun venting to anyone who will listen about how horrible we all are. His life energy is down and his sex drive has really dropped off. He has gradually become sullen, angry, and moody. For about a year now-it could be even longer, it’s hard to know exactly-I have felt my husband of 22 years pulling away from us.
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